Married to the Plug!

Dear Parents,

I know as a parent myself we want the best for our kids, as well as be the best and have the best.  So, some of you may not like what I’m about to tell you.  Hopefully, you all have read my last post, because I want to break down each of the things that college coaches are looking for in recruitment.   These tips are only here to help you help your child to succeed in the game that they love.  With AAU underway kids are riding on getting recruited and picked up by the top schools.


#1 A Good Player

What is a good player? It’s a player that understands the game, sees the court, and listens.  They take criticism without allowing it to affect their mood or their game.  Good players are always in the gym.  Good players can shoot the ball with poise.  NOTE! That you do not have to be the best player to be a good player.

#2 Body Language

This will tell a coach everything they want to know about a player.  If the game is on the line and you are slumped and pouting.  A college coach that was once interested in you has just marked you off his list.  When a coach comes to see a player, trust me it is not his first time seeing a player.  He has watched video of that player and now wants to see him in person.  But, if a coach sees lousy body language on the court that can be his first and last visit.

#3 Mom, Dad, or Guardian Behavior

Oh yes, parents you play a major part in a player’s recruitment.  Are you the parent yelling at the coach when your child isn’t in the game? Are you the parent bad mouthing the coach in the stands? Are you the parent yelling at and coaching your child from the stand? If this is you! Stop! No need to explain yourself, we understand that Little Ray Ray  is your pride and joy.  But if you want coach’s to keep recruiting Little Ray Ray you may just want to cheer the team on.  Listen, anything and everything you do negatively will affect your child’s recruitment.  If you are hounding your child’s coach he will relay how difficult of a parent you are to any coach that is recruiting your child.

#4 Passing

This is essential to playing the game.  As a player you should be able make smart passes.  This includes a bounce pass, chest pass, a no look pass, overhead pass, and baseball pass.  These passes should be unselfish and  made with ease without thinking too hard.  If you cannot do all or at least three out of the five you have some practicing to do.  Understand what I am telling you, yes, you need to be able to do all five passes, but you need to have perfected at least three out of the five if not all of them.

#5 Rebounding

Is also an essential part of the game.  Players should always be active around the goal when the ball hits the rim or the net.  Players should be ready to grab the ball anytime the ball is not in the hands of another player.  Rebounding, the ball puts you in the position to get the ball to another player to score more points. It also puts you in the position to shoot the ball.  So, don’t stand there grab the ball!

#6 Style of Play

What is your position? What are your strengths and weaknesses? Get in touch with your game. Perfect your game by perfecting your strengths and work on your weaknesses whenever possible.  Play your role.  There’s nothing worse than a coach coming to see a player play and he is not playing his role.  If you are a point guard your role is the most important role on the team.  This person sets the tone for the game.  You as a player have to trust that your teammates will actively play their part this is what creates victories.  Not one person trying to play everyone’s position.  

#7 Be the Best On and Off the Court

Understand that everything you do can affect your recruitment process.  When a coach calls you act interested even if you are not, Junior college coaches are just as important as D1 coach’s, be careful what you put out on social media, be upfront with what you are looking for in a school, don’t waste peoples time, and last but not least make sure those grades are on point or your options will be limited.


Thus, parents support your child in their decision, take recruitment trips with your child, ask questions, support the team, support the coach, and last but not least please don’t look at your child as a payoff to your debt.





Hey all! It’s been a while I know, but I am just now being able to peek my head out from all the boxes.  My least favorite thing to do is MOVE, with moving comes unpacking, and it is all just a pain.  Yes, I should be a pro at it by now, but no matter how organized you are with your move it is still a pain.  It’s the list that you have to refer back to, it’s the cleaning before you move in, then it’s the unpacking and organizing everything.  Let us not forget about getting your utilities turned on, switching doctors, and making sure your child and/or children are registered for school. It is just so much to do and remember and if you are a coach’s spouse you know that all this is done while your husband is hard at work.

Fortunately, our current move was back to our home town. Yes, I know what you’re thinking,” Well doesn’t that mean you have help?” And now let me explain something, I am a complete control freak; I have a little obsessive-compulsive disorder, and let us not forget about my anxiety.  Don’t judge me! But this all kicks in when the thought of someone other than my mother, god-mother, or younger sister wants to help me unpack.  So let me break down my process for you. First, before any boxes are unpacked I must set off bug foggers.  I don’t care where we have moved I set them off, before we officially move in.  If there is a garage I put foggers in there as well.  Next, I must clean the house from top to bottom.  I scrub base boards, vacuum corners, mop, run the dishwasher on the hottest setting, and etc.  Finally, I unpack boxes starting with the playroom/kids bedroom first (because a girl has priorities).  Everything has a place and everything must go in its place.  Everybody doesn’t have a system; and my system is strategic and if you can’t follow my system it makes me crazy.  My unpacking process is so serious my husband can only help me unpack boxes he is not allowed to do it alone.  Nothing drives me crazier than when he goes through the house opening boxes.  Again! Don’t judge me!

Other than my packing and unpacking fiasco things are leveling out.  It’s always refreshing when you up the pay scale a little, so you can afford things like a new sofa, because you’ve had the same one since college.  We all have that college furniture you been holding on to because you have priorities that you’re taking care of and new furniture is the last thing you can afford to replace.  But, we’ve been blessed to be able to buy new and are more than grateful.  What has not changed is although my husband is now a head coach working less is not an option.  He still gets up at the crack of dawn, the phone still rings off the hook, and basically the whole universe is basketball.  It all evens out though because his world is basketball and my world is getting the house together to entertain and focusing on our 5-year-old.

Hopefully, my rambling woes will help some of you overcome yours, or maybe not, OR it might help you realize that moving is someone else’s least favorite as well. And just to save you some time and effort I have already closed my eyes a couple of times and said, “Abracadabra Hocus Pocus,” but it hasn’t worked.

Happy Moving Wives!

Moving Tips

1. Set a Moving Date

2. Make a List of Moving Supplies (unless it’s a paid work move)

a. Boxes

b. Scissors

c. Tape

d. Markers (label boxes by rooms)

3. Make a List of Things to Get Done

a. Cleaning

b. Salvation army run or pick up

c. Fill out medical release forms

d. Call to set up utility shut off

e. Put house on the market

f. Contact leasing company

g. Etc.

4. Get Rid of Things You Do not need

5. Go Through All the Rooms and Do a Deep Clean (or set up for a move out cleaning with a cleaning company)

6. Pack Valuables Separately (especially if you are using a moving company)

7. Pack a Week’s Worth of Clothes for Everyone (and if there are children pack a couple of toys.)

8.Deep clean ( or schedule a deep cleaning) Before Unpacking in Your New Place.

9. Get out air mattress (or set up hotel reservation) and snacks, once things are packed you may need somewhere to sleep and things to snack on.

This is only a small list, but it has helped me in every place we’ve moved. There are also longer list that you can google, but they can be overwhelming.

Tossing out old items

Deciding moving companies (we went with Allied, but we have also used Northwestern)

I cleaned myself to save money (I’m cheap)

Loading and moving day!